Facing the Tough Stuff

You are reading this because you are ready for change. Making changes in your life comes in stages. First, you start with the smaller things. They are meaningful and make a difference. However, all along you are aware there are harder things waiting for you just around the bend.

It is a good thing to make progress on the easier items that you recognize need work. Credit yourself every time you make progress. As the steps you take get you closer to the tough stuff. When you are stronger you will work on them.

Sometimes, you get closer to the central questions and then you are thrown off by something or someone else. Go back again when you are ready. If it is a matter of talking it out with someone who is in your life, wait until you are ready to face the consequences of being real with them. You can get there.

Recognize that their reality may be different than yours. Also, remember there is always help to be had out there. Therapy is a remarkable thing. Therapy helped me through some dark times. It was most helpful for me because there was another person in the mix. You could need a trained person to move the two of you through the maze of emotions that was keeping you stuck.

Everyone’s challenges are different. It is rare when someone says “I know how you feel” that this is  true. Your feelings are your own. Yet do not push that person away, because they are trying hard to understand. Accept help where you can.

Whether you go it alone or decide on a professional to guide you, remember you can make it to the other side. You really can.